Frequently Asked Questions
Are Nat and Puck getting married?
yes.
Are you changing your name? Will your contact info change?
Neither of us is changing our names, and we can still be reached by the same email addresses, etc., as before.
What's Puck's real name?
Puck.
Who's the bride? Who's the groom? What pronouns should I use!?
Neither of us is the bride or the groom, we're just people getting married. Puck prefers "they" or "Puck" rather than "he" or "she," and Nat prefers gender neutral or "he" pronouns.
Why wasn't I invited?/Why was I only invited to one thing?
The venue we've chosen is awesome, but also provides some serious limitations on the number of guests we can invite. Puck wanted to invite Everybody Ever! but that isn't... actually possible. The process of making our guestlist has been really difficult for us, and we have tried to make sure that people are invited to the part of the wedding that they will most enjoy. If we don't have a chance to see you day-of, we'd love to have you over for tea sometime soon!
Can I bring a guest?
We wish we could say "hooray, bring everybody!" but our space is pretty limited. We'd love for you to bring a guest we know and love, but if we don't know them and you feel comfortable coming on your own, we'd really appreciate that.
Wait, there's a potluck… thing? What should I bring?
If your invitation didn't say anything about a potluck, there's no need to worry about it. If it *did*, then we'd love for you to bring a dish to share if you're able. We have a lot of friends who are vegan/vegetarian/gluten free so we'd love it if food was along at least one of those lines, and if you could bring information about the ingredients so folks know what they can eat. Also bring your instruments and be prepared to sing along or lead a song!
How did the engagement happen? Is there a ring?
We were watching The West Wing. Nat proposed to Puck with an engagement brooch, as is the traditional way to do things. Wait, what?
Weren't you gay? Is this thing legal?
We're still both pretty darn queer. As we write this the Washington State House of Representatives is deciding if lesbian and gay folks, and as well as some bisexual and trans folks, can legally get married. We've been able to go ahead prior to this because we have different sexes, legally, but we're hopeful that at some point it won't matter which gender folks are if they want to get wed, no matter where they are. We still don't believe that marriage is enough, though.
Why are you getting married, anyway?
Obviously we don't share a lot of traditional expectations around marriage. This wedding is an opportunity to cement our decision to be together for the rest of our lives, but we could have done that anyway. The most important part of our marriage, to us, is the opportunity to bring our families and communities together to witness our commitment to each other in the context of our commitments to all of them.
My question wasn't answered here!
We're sure you're not the only one who wonders! Send it to us at puckandnataregettingmarried@gmail.com