we got our first quote. it’s nigh on 50k, which was my horror story high end of things possibility, pretty much. and that’s just cleanup, not rebuild. we’re meeting with an attorney on monday. i said the phrase “sorry, that was my attorney calling” earlier this week. “my attorney” isn’t a phrase I had ever… Read More


fun quote of the day, from a contractor: You will have basically an empty shell of a house, the outside obviously will still be intact with the windows as well. This decontamination can be expensive. i wish i had pith to follow that up with, but i don’t.… Read More


1) sleep deprived 2) so, driving each other crazier just by existing 3) in limbo 4) far away from what we need to get done 5) having trouble with transitions 6) tripping over each other 7) feeling crowded and alone 8) antsy, waiting 9) getting mixed messages 10) remembering and re-mourning 11) rootless, restless… Read More


we got the notice on the door yesterday, informing us and the world that it’s unsafe to enter without permission. I meant to take a picture, but it was dark by the time I had a chance. the contractor came and the feelings slammed into us again. I think we need to be back in… Read More


time keeps on slipping slipping. moved out to the studio. cat is getting used to it. contractor comes to do an estimate tomorrow morning. send your best wishes.… Read More


tonight my partner took the car in to get an oil change (their first time driving since they got sick!) and learned that the oil pan threads are stripped. so while we were supposed to move today, it’s been pushed back one more night.we were pretty ready to go, except for last-minute things like fridge… Read More


the meeting with the county brought a little good news, not so much financially but emotionally. they agreed that most of the literature out there is talking about how to clean/dispose of possessions that were in the house while meth was being used. since that isn’t the case with us, we don’t have to sanitize/dispose… Read More


nikki mcclure is one of my favorite artists. she makes gorgeous paper cut pieces and releases a new calendar every year. i’ve had one of her calendars every year since 2003, when i moved to olympia. since then i’ve twice overlapped old calendar pages to create beautiful wall murals. i find her work really soothing,… Read More


one of the questions we’re asked most is “how did you find out?” it’s a reasonable question, especially since we’ve lived here for two years – it’s a sudden realization to come out of nowhere. my partner’s been having some weird medical issues. we thought it was work related, so we’ve been seeing an occupational… Read More


i have a doctor appointment in seattle today and what would normally just feel like a tedious and scary errand also feels like a refreshing vacation of not staring at our house trying to figure out what to do. blood work, yay! in lieu of an actual post, here is a song my partner found… Read More